Beware of people who tell you to trivialize your feelings by "practicing gratitude" or comparing your situation to that of others - especially if these people are healers or spiritual advisors. This approach is all too common and not at all compassionate. Your feelings are valid and you are allowed to feel them. Denying your feelings by telling yourself to just "be grateful" when you really feel another strong emotion is a form of self-violence. When other people tell you things like, "at least you don't have it as bad as...", those people probably mean well. What they're really telling you to do is deny your true feelings and stuff them deep down (where they will fester and turn into deep psychological traumas and ultimately physical illness). Is it nice to be grateful? Absolutely. But don't get sucked into the violent practice of gratitude. Don't deny your human feelings because you think that you should be able to just choose happiness in all situations. Practice compassion to self and others. Feel your feelings and give others a safe place to do the same.